The phrase "we're pregnant" perfectly fits in today's world where men are actively involved throughout pregnancy.
Dads-to-be have a vital role to play — after the baby is born and during pregnancy as well.
Here's what dads-to-be can do to help moms-to-be.
Early pregnancy emotions
Everyone reacts differently when they find out they are having a baby. You may be very excited about the news and look forward to having a baby, or you may not feel ready to become a parent, even if you're excited about the baby.
Becoming a parent is a huge step. It's okay to be a little terrified. It's best not to announce the pregnancy to other people until the end of the first trimester. You can use this time to get used to the idea of becoming a dad.
Dealing with your partner's mood swings
Your partner may experience mood swings in the early weeks, and these mood swings can come with little or no warning. Try not to take it personally. Mood swings are common during pregnancy due to changes in the level of the hormones. Talking to a friend, family member, or another expectant dad may help.
Helping your partner cope with morning sickness
If your partner has morning sickness,
- Offer to cook
- Avoid cooking or eating food that makes her feel nauseous.
- Encourage her to eat small amounts often.
Attend all health checks and doctor appointments together
Whenever possible, go to prenatal check-ups together—you can have your questions answered too. These opportunities can help you both feel connected to your little one.
Read pregnancy books
Reading pregnancy books will help you understand and relate to what your pregnant partner is going through and ways in which you can support her.
Stay active together
Staying active with your partner is a fun way to feel more connected.
Avoid alcohol and quit smoking
You can show support to your pregnant partner by not drinking alcohol during pregnancy. If you smoke, try to cut down and quit.
Go to prenatal classes
Prenatal classes can help you understand what to expect during labour and delivery and how to support your partner during labour.
You may be worried about many things—your partner's and baby's health, increased responsibilities once the baby is born, etc. Talk to each other and take the time to do things to relieve stress and deal with your changing emotions.
Be prepared for the birth
Make sure you can be reached at all times. Make travel arrangements in advance to get to the hospital. If you're going to be driving to the hospital, make sure your car works and has petrol.
Be there during labour
Giving birth is a big deal. Every pregnant woman in labour needs support. Be there for your partner. Offer encouragement, comfort, and help.
Don't forget to take care of yourself
It's essential to take care of yourself.
- Eat well.
- Get enough sleep.
- Stay physically active.
- Find support from family and friends.
- Maintain honest, open communication with your partner.
References
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4. Raising Children Network (Australia) Limited. Moods and morning sickness: a guide for men [Internet]. Available at: https://raisingchildren.net.au/pregnancy/dads-guide-to-pregnancy/early-pregnancy/moods-morning-sickness. Accessed on Aug 27, 2020.
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6. NHS. Pregnancy, birth and beyond for dads and partners [Internet]. Available at: https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/pregnancy-and-baby/dad-to-be-pregnant-partner/. Accessed on Aug 27, 2020.
7. Healthdirect Australia. Pregnancy, Birth and Baby. Choosing a birth support partner [Internet]. Available at: https://www.pregnancybirthbaby.org.au/choosing-a-birth-support-partner. Accessed on Aug 13, 2020.